Friday, November 27, 2009

Question about FATE

I was watching Sex and the City a couple of nights ago after work and Carrie's question for that episode was "Can you make a mistake and miss your fate?" I thought this was a very interesting question, in the real sense of the word interesting.

CAN you make a mistake and miss your fate?

Doesn't fate, by definition, mean something meant to be come what may? So if this is so, then no matter what you do or don't do, you will get it. Because it was preordained as something meant to be yours or for you. If so, where does choice fit in?

What if there is no such thing as fate? What if all that you have or are meant to have is because you made it happen. Because you chose the roads to travel. Where then does fate fit in?

I am at that point where I am wondering what I have control over in my life. My friend said sometimes no matter how hard you try, if it isn't meant for you, it won't happen. She also said, on the subject of relationships at least, some people don't end up with anyone because perhaps this was not the plan for them (in this lifetime). Wow. Can Fate be that cruel? To have your life planned as a solitary one? Or maybe it just seems cruel to me because I've always wanted to share my life with a partner.



  1. This might or might not help but it's one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite poets. I've loved this quote since college:

    "... have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves ... Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer." (Rainer Maria Rilke)

  2. I love this poet. And I know this quote. I think you're right. :)